Jay Lenox and wife Kelly pose together at an event.

Meet Jayson “Jay” Lenox

Modeling Leadership Skills and Respect for Others


Early Years:

Jayson “Jay” Lenox is the third of four children adopted by John and Jane Lenox. He was raised in Columbia, Missouri, with sisters Jill and Jan, late brother Joe, and the family dog, Jackie. The family relocated to St. Charles when Jay was a teenager as a result of his parents’ divorce. Jay’s father was in the insurance industry, starting out as a district sales manager for Shelter Insurance and climbing the company ranks, retiring in 1998 as its President & CEO. Jay’s mom worked in cancer research as a clinical coordinator for a group of oncologists.


Jay met his wife, Kelly, through mutual friends on a blind date in St. Louis. They dated two years before getting married in October of 1996. Kelly spent 14 years as a stay-at-home mom raising their three children: John (21), Katie (19) and K.C. (12). Currently, she is an Office Coordinator for the Women and Infants Center at Barnes-Jewish and St. Louis Children’s Hospitals.

John is studying politics and exploring his interest in the legal profession at American University in Washington, D.C. He is an avid golfer, and interns with U.S. Senator Roy Blunt (R-MO). Katie is double-majoring in economics and communications with a minor in finance at Boston College. She is on the Dean’s List and considering law school in her future. K.C. is a middle-schooler at Visitation Academy, and a very talented golfer. She can drive the ball 265 yds. and hits 155 yds. with a 7 iron. Jay claims no credit for this talent!

The family loves to attend tailgate parties, watch the St. Louis Cardinals and Blues, and Mizzou football and basketball. They also enjoy traveling to visit with family, which includes trips to Colorado, Florida, New York City, Boston and Washington, D.C.

Hobbies & Interests:

Jay loves snow skiing and cycling. He recently accomplished a personal goal to ride his age in miles in one day’s time (54 mi.) Weather permitting, Jay bikes 40+ miles every week. During his travels, Jay seeks opportunities to bike in different cities and states. In addition to New York City’s Central Park, he has cycled in California, Colorado, Florida, Illinois, Wyoming and Washington, D.C.

If visiting a major city with an MLB team, Jay tries to find time to watch a baseball game. To-date, he has been to a home game for the Atlanta Braves, Colorado Rockies, New York Yankees, Texas Rangers, Washington Nationals and Kansas City Royals, along with his hometown St. Louis Cardinals. Jay has also followed the Missouri Tiger Football team to attend games throughout their conference, including:

  • Phoenix, Arizona
  • Fayetteville, Arkansas
  • Gainesville, Florida
  • Kansas City, Missouri
  • Shreveport, Louisiana
  • Oxford, Mississippi
  • Lincoln, Nebraska
  • Reno, Nevada
  • Memphis, Tennessee
  • San Diego, California
  • Norman, Oklahoma
  • College Station, Austin, San Antonio and Dallas, Texas

Jay enjoys annual trips to Colorado and to Naples, Florida, to visit family, and is looking forward to traveling abroad with 12 members of his extended family to Italy next summer.

Education & Career Path:

Jay attended St. Charles West High School, where he took on leadership roles as Junior Class President and as a Lieutenant Governor for the Missouri/Arkansas Key Club Board of Directors. He also played varsity basketball but admits he did not see much court time.

As far as college was concerned, there was no question that Jay would attend the University of Missouri (Mizzou). Having spent many years in Columbia enjoying football games and tailgate parties, it was an easy decision. After college, Jay was enrolled in dental school at UMKC before deciding to change his plans. He realized he was always interested in helping people and decided to study law instead. This decision was heavily influenced by watching his stepfather, Rollin Moerschel, practice civil litigation and municipal law, and become city attorney in St. Peters. Jay passed the Missouri Bar Exam in 1991 and the Illinois Bar Exam in 1992.

Jay spent the first 26 years of his career as a trial attorney and in estate planning. Out of 86 jury trials, he only had five losses. Jay joined Rudy Beck’s law firm as partner in 2017, where he will eventually take over as its owner. He loves the Estate Planning and Elder Law specialty and describes his time with Rudy as “learning from the Master Instructor.”

Community Involvement & Volunteer Efforts:

Jay is a past president of the St. Charles Kiwanis Club and has served on the Board of Directors for 10 years. He is a past President of the St. Charles County Mizzou Alumni Association and, for six years, was on the University of Missouri’s International Alumni Board. He currently serves on the Board of Directors for Unlimited Play, a nonprofit organization that builds accessible playgrounds for people of all abilities. When his kids attended Academy of the Sacred Heart in St. Charles, Jay was also a Board Member on the Parent’s Council.

Philosophies on Life:

“I treat all people equally, whether a janitor or CEO of a company. I treat everyone with the utmost respect.” – Jay’s wife and colleagues can vouch for this!

“You learn from every loss.” – Out of 86 jury trials, Jay’s last ended in his fifth loss. His daughter Katie helped put this in perspective. When she saw her father was disappointed about the loss for his client, she informed him that he had a 94% success rate, and to think about all he has learned from each loss.

Why The Change to Beck Estate Planning & Elder Law:

Jay approached founder Rudy Beck about employment a number of years ago, before eventually being approached by Rudy to explore the possibility of partnership. Jay says:

“I had been successful in my areas of practice but was looking for fresh opportunities to expand my Estate Planning and Elder Law experience, and to help serve people. The growing need for elder law and elder care services certainly caught my attention. I knew how highly Rudy was respected in his profession, and how much I had come to respect him as a lawyer. I met with him again, and the rest is history!”  

Who Should Call You:

If you or a loved one are planning for the future or in a crisis situation right now, please contact our firm. We offer a free, confidential consultation and, if needed, can explore government funding options to pay for care – including Medicaid and Veterans Benefits.

Jay adds:

“Anyone who needs help with their estate planning or in protecting assets for a loved one should call us. To any son or daughter who is concerned about a parent’s ability to pay privately for long-term care: We can help you through this process.”